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Who Am I Again?

If had to choose between forgetting who I am and forgetting who everyone else was, I would chose to forget myself. Why? Well, for one thing, I really don’t want to forget the people I love like my kids or husband, though it would be kind of hard to understand how I could not know who I am and yet remember them.

At least if I only forgot myself and everything about me, I wouldn’t feel as lost as if I didn’t know who anyone was. This way I would at least have the security of knowing that the people around me had my best interests at heart and were likely trying to help me get my memory back. I think I could sleep better at night, otherwise I would be terrified of everything and wonder if the people around me wanted to do me harm.

Yes, it would be awful to have no memory of yourself, but at least if you knew the people around you they could show you lots of pictures, videos, etc. that you might be in and help you to get your memory back. Otherwise I would be in a scary world of strangers and I know that I likely wouldn’t believe much of what they told me at all. If I remembered them, I would at least trust them. That seems way better than having to live in fear of everything.

Forgetting who others are is what happens in dementia and I really wouldn’t wish that on anyone because I have seen what it does to a family. If I forget myself, it would be very frustrating, but if I forget everyone that would be more tragic for them since they would have to reassure me they were my friends, etc. and I might try to get away from them instead of trust that they wanted to help me get my memory back.

Sure, it would also be frustrating for them if I didn’t know who I was, but I think they would be more upset if I acted like I hated them or were afraid of them if I didn’t know them, so yes, I would much rather have them have to explain to me who I was, than have to live in a world where everyone was a stranger and it all seemed scary and that I didn’t have a home or friends or anything.

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Would you rather be deaf or blind?

If you've ever pondered about how a blind or deaf person feels about life, then you have probably had the ability of forming empathy for others on a level at a greater extent than many others. Unfortunately, many of us take some of life's greatest gifts for granted. By truly being thankful for the gifts of the world we have been given and have possession of, we can learn to be happier during the times we feel are so challenging. When it comes to disabilities, there are no doubts about the fact that there are hundreds that affect millions of people all around the world. Perhaps some of the disabilities that nobody would ever want to experience is being deaf or blind. People who have been diagnosed with deafness or blindness can certainly be considered as being people with significant strengths. They are required to either learn a specific form of communication or way of living. Those who are deaf are often required to learn how to form and read sign language and those who are blind are required to feel and interpret braille writing. An even tougher life would be a diagnosis consisting of both blindness and deafness. Although most of us have good enough hearing and vision to communicate with one another and live normal lives, there are still millions who do not have the privilege of living with such abilities. If you had no choice but to be either blind or deaf, which one would you choose? This is a question that many people probably do not necessarily think of. However, it is something that may hit someone unexpectedly. A car accident can take away both vision and hearing for somebody. As people age, many begin the losing of vision and hearing process. Although these are scenarios we would all like to avoid if we had the choice, there are some things that are considered as being inevitable aspects of life. Therefore, we should always have an awareness of such things possibly happening. If one could choose between being deaf or blind, there are a few things they would have to put into perspective. For instance, if the individual is more of a visual person than anything else, then they would probably prefer going deaf before blind. However, if the individual is a music enthusiast, then they will more than likely want to go blind before going deaf. Living with either of such senses can be a nightmare for anybody. However, they should realize that there are millions across the world with either one or both of such disabilities. Again, these simple senses are aspects of our lives we often take for granted. Hearing is a sense that brings us closer to those we love. Could you imagine never hearing their voice ever again? How about our significant other? What if we could never see their face ever again due to suddenly losing our vision. Both ailments are certainly debilitating in more than just a few ways.

Here is my take on it!

I want to see him grow up

Would you rather see your child grow up to be a man or hear him say I love you? How could anyone choose? If I had to make this hypothetical choice I would choose to be deaf. I can live without music, or the voices of strangers but I admit living without my little son’s laugh and tiny voice saying “I love you” would break my heart. That being said, I want to see him smile. I live to see him grow. I could not choose to give up seeing him light up when he sees my face. I want to see the love if I cannot hear the words. Even if I choose to be deaf we can still dance to music together turning up the music so loud we feel it in our guts.I can learn to read lips. I could not forgive myself if I made a choice that meant I never saw what my son looked like as a man. We can share art, fireworks, the lights on the Christmas tree, and waterfalls without the need for sound. There are so many amazing sites and places I want to share with my son and I cannot give that up. When growing up as a child, we did not travel or explore often or far. I retreated to books where I could find the sites and experiences of the world, but I want to show those thing to my son first hand. Secondly, I am an artist. I can live in silence but not in the darkness. The way my mind and heart express themselves is through the visual expression. I know I could still make art blind but I would never be able to see the results. With art, I want to be able to see and feel the process. A visual process that brings creative and emotional catharsis. I could not imagine feeling whole without the ability to explore it to completion. As a mother and as an artist, I would choose to be deaf to save my eye sight. I would obviously morn my hearing. I can live without my hearing but it would be a lot more difficult to live without the site of so many upcoming memories. Navigating in this world without your hearing is difficult enough, but without your site it can be impossible to survive without help.

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Where's My Easy Button?

I'm a "pro vs. con lister", so when I decided to sell my car in order to buy a new one, the first thing I did was sit down with pen and paper to decide: Should I sell the car myself, or go through the dealership and use it as a trade-in.

The first column was the benefits of using my current car as a trade-in:
  • TAX BENEFIT. Most states agree that you only have to pay taxes on the amount of difference between the trade-in value and the purchase price of the new vehicle you buy.
  • NO RESEARCH. The process is stream-lined and easy to do for the most part. No, or at least very little, research is required of me before going into the dealership. I only need to have an idea of the Blue Book Value.
  • E-Z. The trans-action is usually hassle-free. Once a price is agreed upon and a new vehicle is chosen, I just have to turn my keys over. All the paperwork is done for me.
  • DOWN PAYMENT. If the car I'm trading off has a positive value (the value of the car is more than what is owed on it), OR ... it's already paid off entirely, I can use the money I receive as all or part of my down payment on a new car.
Now for the benefits of selling my car myself: 1. MAKE MORE MONEY. Since the car dealership is in the business to make money, they are not going to offer me as much as I can sell the car for privately. With a private sale, I can include any special additions I made to the car, the maintenance that I kept up, etc. And now for the Con column of selling my car myself: 1. INVESTMENT. Selling a car myself will require a bigger investment of time and even some money. There's preparing the car for sale ... detailing the car and getting it show worthy; checking and topping off all the fluids; perhaps having a mechanic look it over to make sure there are no surprises; researching the value of the car; finding proof of repairs and car maintenance that you have done; creating an ad; finding the right place to advertise your car; answering all the calls and weeding out the scammers and just uninterested parties; and finally making yourself available to meet with potential buyers. And finally the Con side of selling to a dealership as a trade-in: 1. MONEY. I won't make as much money off of the sale of my car. These columns clearly are unbalanced to the naked eye, so it requires some prioritizing. To me the investment of time is the biggest factor. I don't have the time (or the patience) to sell my car privately, and being able to use my car as a trade-in for my new car is my top priority. But if your bottom line is money ... then the private sale is for you.

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